By now nearly everyone on social media has seen the video of Baltimore mom, Toya Graham put the ‘smackdown’ on her masked son and if you haven’t you’ve been living under a rock. Today Ms. Graham’s son Michael Singleton decided to break his silence and speak with CNN regarding the disciplinary actions his mother used to “get” his attention.
“She didn’t want me to get in trouble (with the) law. She didn’t want me to be like another Freddie Gray,” he said, as he recalled his thoughts just prior to seeing his mother. “I was just like ‘Oh man… and then it was just World War III from right there,” he said, showing some humor about the incident.
Once the two got home, and they started watching the news, he started to realize what he’d done and why his mother was so upset.
“I was embarrassed a little bit, until she just started talking to me when we got home,” he said. “(She was) just telling me she did it because she cared about me. And it wasn’t to embarrass me, but because she cared.”
Although the video depicting Graham’s punishment may seem harsh to many parents who don’t believe in physically disciplining their children, I believe that “sparing the rod and spoiling the child” is the exact reason many of this young generation are having these problems. If parents don’t take more interest in what their children are doing, someone else will and that “someone” else may not be the influence you want for them. Drug dealers are eager to find displaced kids to do their “dirty” work. Pimps are always looking to build a young girls confidence up, only to tear it down and degrade her with prostitution. Gangs recruit displaced teenagers by claiming to be the “family” they never had.
We have to teach our children that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. You touch a hot stove, you get burned. You mess with drugs, you may get burned. You ignore the orders of a police officer, you may die. You riot in the streets, you may go to jail. The concept is easy… the follow through on the part of the parent is hard, but nobody ever said raising children was going to be easy. Maybe people should be thinking about that, before they have them.
Many are touting Ms. Graham as “mother of the year”, and maybe she should be. She took the time to pull her 16 year-old son off the streets, oblivious to all the cameras around her, ensuring her son did not become a part of the riff raff that burned and destroyed parts of that city. We don’t know every aspect of Ms. Graham life to say she fits that bill, but one thing is for certain; “If WWE is looking for a new female wrestler, this lady she be given the call.”
Patrick James has worked as a firefighter/EMT for several services throughout the years, as well as a custom metal fabricator, certified personal trainer and chef.
Growing up in the rural suburbs of Detroit, it was during his frequent trips to Northern Michigan where he learned of his love for hunting and fishing. Spending several of his adult years in upstate South Carolina, his love of extreme sports took root in the foothills of the Great Smoky Mountains as he learned to rock climb and kayak.
“Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and vanish into air.” ~ John Quincy Adams